Yesterday I sent Jaxon off to his first day of Head Start. Yes, he’s only 3, yes he is young, but he has a speech delay and needs a lot of help and Head Start with an IEP is the best thing for him. Jeffery and Jaylin both went through 2 years of Head Start and they did amazing. I don’t remember feeling this much heartache after sending the other two off to school for their first years of school…I guess because I only had a year of each by themselves and Jaxon has had almost 3 years by himself with me while the big kids were in school. He’s been my cuddle buddy in the mornings and even though he don’t talk much, I can understand what he wants/needs pretty easily.
It could also be because yesterday he happily walked out our front door and got to the bus then froze right before the door…he understood then that he was getting ON the bus. When I picked him up to put him on the bus he held on around my neck for dear life and just screamed and cried. My other two didn’t do that, Jaylin cried but she didn’t cling to me….she cried getting on the bus for well over a week but I don’t remember her holding onto me like he did. I walked away from that bus and wiped tears from my eyes as I listened to him cry. I did get a reassuring phone call a little later saying he stopped crying after a few minutes and happily went to his class. When I picked him up that afternoon his teacher said he did wonderful and even told them when he had to potty (it was his first day wearing a pull-up, he’s usually naked in our house and none of us were sure how he’d do in undies) He excitedly answered “yea” to my questions about if he liked school and if he had fun and liked his teacher. I thought the worse was over.
We got up this morning and I asked Jaxon if he was ready to get dressed for school and he, again, excitedly said “yea”. We got a pull-up on him, and got dressed, took pictures (I didn’t get any the first day:( ) and we waited on the bus. When the bus did arrive he dropped his backpack and started crying…he tried to run away when I went to pick him up. It was worse than the first day! He kept reaching for the house and then Daddy when he stood on the porch. He screamed and cried and tried to get out of my arms. I had to fight back the tears. The bus aide took him from me and I had to quickly walk away as the tears started again. Today he’ll get to ride the bus home. Maybe then he’ll see the bus isn’t so bad because it brings him home too?
I guess I should talk about Jeffery and Jaylin’s first days too huh? They’ve been in school for 2 weeks now and have been doing GREAT!!! Jeffery hasn’t gotten in trouble and Jaylin’s anxiety seems to be doing pretty good (she has a wonderful teacher who understands the issues) I did speak with Jeffery’s extra counselor yesterday and she feels like everyone is walking on eggshells with Jeffery to keep him from having a meltdown or acting out. We do it at home sometimes too because the meltdowns are so intense. I have things in place now that we’re trying to find a new psychiatrist for him, one that don’t blame me for everything (seriously, I have 4 kids and he’s the only one who acts this way…this started at Jaxon’s age and he don’t do anything NEAR what Jeffery did! I know it’s not me.) Anyways, I think with everything we have in place, his BIP, his OT, his extra counselor, the medicine and his teacher is well aware of his issues and so far has been doing great with him.
How were your kids’ first days/weeks back to school?